All flourishing is mutual
Therapy for relationships as unique as the people in them
There are ways through the most challenging circumstances
Most of us get stuck focused on trying to resolve our differences.
In any relationship, we call on our relational skills to soothe unruly emotions, to prioritize between our various commitments, to communicate honestly while still being kind and warm, and to attune to the preferences of others while still respecting our own. None of us are born with all the skills we need to support lasting relationships. We have to develop them with time and practice.
This work makes space for the parts of ourselves that struggle to be in relationship at all.
We will always begin with a free 20-minute initial talk. This gives us a chance to connect, discuss what you’re looking for, and determine whether it feels like a good fit.
Step 1
Book Your Free 20-Min Initial Talk
(in person or online)
Step 2
Relationship Intro Session
This gives us space to slow down, get oriented, and begin building a working relationship.
$330 | 100 Minutes
Step 3
Relationship ongoing Sessions
Ongoing sessions paced collaboratively around your needs, capacity, and goals.
$265 | 80 Minutes
Do we know each other already? Book your next appointment here.
What to Expect
Relationships are a living system.
They will require care and tending. As a newcomer to your particular relationship ecology, I spend the first session learning as much as I can.
I will ask about the work you want to do for you.
Everything happens collaboratively and at a pace that respects your comfort, consent, and agency. This can mean we break out into solo sessions from time to time.
We won’t ever try to force catharsis or push past your limits. The goal is to help you build more informed, trusting relationships- ones you really want to be in.
When repair is the most urgent ask, I’ll guide you.
Yes, we come to therapy in relationship crisis. I’ll honor that effort alongside guidance for the next steps in relational repair. Everyone has a part in getting what they want, and rarely can that happen all at once. Authentically being generous with another and standing up for what we want is relationship jujitsu. You can learn how.
Not all relationships follow expectations
This work may resonate with you if:
You are experiencing highs and lows that exhaust you
You feel disconnected
You lack good faith in their intentions
You have tried everything you know to get through to someone
You can’t discern if you want this relationship
You are practicing non-monogamy, polyamory, kink, or another non-traditional form of relating and want support
You would like to learn how to bring up difficult topics
You want clarity on your relational agreements
It is hard to maintain connections that feel imperiled and imbalanced. For many couples, it’s easy for fear-based conversations to crowd out future imagining and envisioning. When people create space to talk about what they want to be building, not just what they are trying not to break, many can visibly relax, and the quality of connection expands
There’s more to the story than you know.
Ready to start the conversation?
Working together starts with a free 20-minute initial talk. This gives us a chance to connect, discuss what you’re looking for, and determine whether the work feels like a good fit for both of us.
Frequently asked questions
What relationship training have you done?
I am a fully certified Relational Life Therapist (RLT), based on the work of Terry Real. I have lived experience in consensual non-monogamy (CNM) and further training in therapeutic approaches for CNM under the mentorship of Martha Kauppi.
Do I have to be in an open relationship to see you? What if I am monogamous?
No. I work with all kinds of relationship agreements, including monogamous ones. I’ve experienced the benefits and drawbacks of several styles of relationship. There is not a one-size-fits-all approach here. I’d like to see you get as much of what you want as possible.
Can I talk about sex?
Yes, you are welcome to bring everything in. When we discuss being close to someone, this is often a very important aspect of that sense of intimacy. Talking openly about our wants and wishes both reduces shame and shares parts of ourselves so that we can be met in our desires.
What if what I really want is to leave?
That can be a really difficult topic to bring up. The purpose of relationship therapy is not to regulate ourselves to a “yes” we don’t feel or stabilize misery. If discernment is what you are really looking for, I can support you better in solo sessions to discover your true position on this dilemma. Book an individual session.
